A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Proverbs 15:1
The word civility shares the same root word as citizen. Citizens of a common nation survive largely because they enter into an implied contract that they need each other. Individual citizens have a role to play for the collective benefit and laws are created to balance mutual responsibilities to one another.
These are interesting times in our world. Almost without exception, every topic, every issue has two sides. Yet, I continually see an erosion of the ability to discuss them in a rational non-angry way. Putting “civil” back into civilization is the basis for our society to function smoothly.
In 2009, Mark DeMoss founded the Civility Project. He asked 585 members of the U.S. Congress to pledge to use only civil rhetoric in public discourse. The pledge required a person to be respectful of others whether or not you agreed with them, and to stand against incivility when it occurred.
After 2 years, only 3 had signed up, and the project was disbanded. Instead of getting positive responses, DeMoss received emails from both sides that were vitriolic and profane.
That was 12 years ago. It’s not hard to trace how we got here. Much of our incivility today comes from a Marxist movement which, at its center, desires to divide us by race. That one theme is the center of much controversy.
Antonio Gramasci would be proud – he was one of the early Marxist thinkers who changed the original Marxist idea of creating cultural divisions through the exploitation of economic classes. Instead, Gramasci realized that the western world lent itself to creating divisions based on ethnic or racial issues rather than economic ones.
His thinking can be seen in Prairie Fire, the 1970’s manifesto of the Weather Underground, a designated domestic terrorism group. It is available on Amazon today. I detailed its contents here, and they are worth a look. Many Weathermen leaders were prosecuted, and many more dropped from public view and returned to academia where they have had an impact over the past decades.
One convicted alumni of the Weather Underground – Susan Rosenberg – currently sits on a board that raises money for the Black Lives Matter movement. The 1619 Project and current Critical Race Theory is part of the new ideology which is more theology than ideology, making it hard to counter.
The point is that academia has been instrumental in creating racial tensions, and it continues today with a vengeance. It has poisoned the minds of the next generation into accepting a doctrine which is based on historical fallacy and is anti-God, anti- family and not biblical.
I recently spoke to a friend who is the sole white woman in her office. She feels isolated and is openly scorned because of her race, something she has no control over. She doesn’t know how to respond to criticism, fearing any pushback will only blow up and escalate.
While I don’t have magical solutions, I thought I would tackle how we inject civility in a very uncivil culture. One key is being polite – exercising grace to those around you even though they may not deserve it. For Christians, being filled with grace is a good witness.
The second suggestion is to disagree without showing disrespect. One of the great lines from The Gambler, a country and western song is: “Know when to hold them and when to fold them.” Sometimes disagreement may require turning the other cheek. Put another way, sometimes discretion is the better part of valor.
As a believer, you have the right to your opinion. Jesus didn’t bend on essential truths that He asked us to live by. Conflict is unavoidable, but combat is a choice. Before we move into combat, one might want to try and have an opportunity to understand the differences. That might mean building bridges, not blowing them up.
The racial controversy is a difficult topic even between Christian brothers who actually love each other. I attend a bible study on mornings which is composed of about 20% minority participants. They are all my brothers. Last year, we asked them to speak about their personal experiences of discrimination.
It was heart-wrenching, and many tears were shed. We just listened and lamented with them. Their experiences should never happen in a country that was designed to provide freedom to all races. My own daughter in law is Asian and has endured discrimination over her lifetime as well. It shouldn’t happen, but it does.
Recently, Marvin Olasky profiled a chapter from a book titled “Why Didn’t We Riot” by a black professor at Davidson College which is located in North Carolina. The book is World Magazine’s runner up for book of the year in 2020. The chapter is worth a read because it is one man’s story of his experiences – similar to what we heard on a Friday morning from my black friends.
Clearly, I am sympathetic to the injustices that have occurred to blacks and minorities over time. But the narrative being pushed that it is all the white race’s fault and that they are oppressors and blacks are victims is not a bridge but a battle. As Tony Dungy says, “God wants us to build bridges, not walls, wherever possible”.
The next generation have been steeped in these racial narratives to the point of indoctrination. They don’t know history and favor socialism which is the goal of Marxism.
There are difficult discussions ahead, but ones that will have to happen and hopefully, grace and civility will be the centerpiece. As Christians, you can understand past injustices, but you also know that the solution is civility leading to bridges not division.
MENTOR TAKEAWAY: Mentors are in the perfect position to dial into these kinds of issues by providing a correct historical and biblical solution to race.
FURTHER READING: Antonio Gramasci: The Godfather of Cultural Marxism
Prairie Fire: The Politics of Revolutionary Anti-Imperialism
The Crazy True Story of the Weather Underground
Uncommon Decency: Christian Civility in an Uncivil World – Mouw
Why Didn’t We Riot: A Black Man in Trumpland – Isaac
The Child Soldiers of Portland – Rufo
WORSHIP: Grace Flows Down – Nockels
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